First post for me.
I've read this thread with interest and it raises some interesting points, the most straightforward one being that what is being proposed, supported with a suitable & sufficient Fire Risk Assessment, and well managed, would mean little difficulty in meeting legal obligations under the Fire Safety Order. Unfortunately this doesn't help with the Building Regulations.
With hindsight, some pre-application discussions with a number of approving bodies might have found one with a more sympathetic view of the proposals (apparently this does happen!!!)
My advice would not be to contact the local Fire Safety Officer. This is likely to be seen as at best trying to bypass the system and at worst playing one authority off against the other. This is unlikely win favour with either party.
In terms of reference to the Fire Safety Order in Building Control Consultations, my understanding is that the Fire Authority respond firstly on compliance or otherwise with the Building Regulations, benchmarking to ADB unless specific variations are detailed, and secondly, any "Additional" requirements to meet the legal obligations of the Fire Safety Order or other legislation.
The requirement for the Fire Authority to advice on matters of Fire Safety is open to local interpretation. Some still provide the full unpaid consultancy role of old, with those that have fully embraced the change to a professional auditing and enforcement authority, considering reference to guidance on either their own or Government websites, and very generic verbal advice as meeting their legal obligations. The guiding principal is I understand "its your risk, you manage it", with the footnote reading ".... and if you don't have the expertise to do it yourself, you should employ someone who does, to do it on your behalf".