Hi Steve
Fire engineering answer:
The judicious use of fire cutains around the staircase and smoke extraction from the fire floor could possibly protect the escape route to a suitable degree.
More cautious answer:
By far, most fire deaths occur in homes. Fire engineering is a new 'science' that has yet to rid itself fully of the scepticism more commonly associated with generic pseudo-scientific approaches. In other words we can, and do, experiment with fire engineering in less risky buildings such as offices and shops (and we won't see the results of our experiments for decades) but when we deal with the most risky places that exist (our homes) we have to be extremely sure of the safety features that we use in order to protect future residents.
We know that following ADB does not necessarily lead to 100% safe buildings but it's close enough for the time being.
The response from the BCO is a standard reaction to a non-standard proposal and should not be taken to imply that a safe solution does exist outside the confines of ADB guidance. If you believe he/she is making such an implication then you should ask for a stear on what kind of solution might be satisfactory whilst lying outside the guidance. I doubt you will get a helpful response.
Good fire engineering is really just the application of realistic assumptions and logic with clear and unambiguous presentation of the conclusions. Unfortunately, many fire engineers, BCOs, fire officers, developers and clients mistakenly believe that there is more to it than this. This belief in an intangible, boundless (and usually unnecessary) complexity leads to a broader belief in mythical and magical capabilities of fire engineering that simply don't exist.
I don't doubt for a second that there are many possible safe solutions for your building but I suspect that the majority of safe solutions will lie within the guidance of ADB. My fire engineering answer above might work for a while but, in fifty years time, how sure can we be that there will be a safe route from the upper bedrooms at 4.00am if the living room is on fire? There is no magical fire engineering wand to wave at it.